Networking Event: Who’s Who

After work today, I was to go to my first networking event in the Southside. The event was to take place at the Skybar. When I left work, I arrived to the Southside pretty early. I got a coffee at this really awesome hipster coffee place. It was so much better than Starbucks. I ordered an iced coffee, with brown sugar syrup. I put a little cream in it, and it was good to go. I sat down at a table, and people watched. I could do that all day and night down there, so many different walks of life.

After I finished my coffee, I took a walk down 18th street  towards Diesel, and saw some people standing outside talking. They were there for the networking event and were just waiting to get in. I started talking to them, and handing out business cards, shaking hands, and networking. It seemed so easy. I couldn’t wait until Drew got there. He was going to meet me down there.

When they finally let us in, we had to go all the way upstairs to the roof. The top was open, so you could look up and see the sky. It was a pretty cool bar. It dawned on me that I was there once before, on a different occasion back in my single days. I ordered a drink and opened up a tab. I sipped my drink and started talking to whoever I can. I handed people a flyer regarding our grand opening, etc. It was fun, but awkward.

Finally Drew showed up, when he arrived I was talking to an insurance sales man. I introduced Drew to John, from the insurance company. After the conversation ended, we went and got some snacks at the table, which were setup buffet style. It was a nice event, but a bit pointless for our business, I felt.

When we left the event, Drew and I were walking back to my car and I we passed by the Exchange in their window they had the Halloween movie, shirt on display. He pointed it out to me saying, “Look babe!” I said, “Can I get it?” he said, “Definitely, baby!” I was excited. I went in bought the shirt, and then we continued to walk back to the car.
When we got home, I was so tired. I couldn’t wait to go to bed. Drew wanted to have a beer, and watch a bit of the Pens game. I could barely keep my eyes open, so I got up and got ready for bed.

Confirmation Sponsors Retreat

This morning, I had to get up early to be at my parents at 8am. My dad and I had to go to a confirmation sponsors retreat. I decided to go to church with him, as well. When we arrived to church, we sat in the front row. I wasn’t sure what to expect today.
After church was over, we went to the school building, and into the room where they meet every Sunday. Karen brought cookies from Whole Foods for us to snack on. We opened with a prayer, and BethAnn lit some candles. She explained to us that we were going to be broken up into smaller groups to discuss some bible passages, that have the same theme, but mean something different. She passed the passages out to the group.
When we went into the separate rooms, My dad and I had a passage from the book of Genesis.

Honestly it has been so long since I intently, and closely read the Bible. My dad and I were put in a room with another director from the RCIA. My dad read the passage, and the director asked us about the meaning of the passage, and what we thought it might mean. Dad said, “I think what God is saying is that he didn’t make us look physically like him, but inwardly. It is not to be taking literal.” I thought obviously, or we would all look the same! My dad seemed so intent on getting the interpretations, “Right.” Me, not so much, the Bible isn’t about being right, or wrong it is about your own interpretation of the words. Somehow, the topic of my adoption came up, and the director cried. She said, “That is so beautiful. this is a perfect passage for us to read today. Although, I wasn’t made psychically from my parents, but I was made for them in likeness.” It was a heavy day. I never thought of it that way, applying a Bible passage to my adoption.
When we all regrouped in the first room, we were asked to share what we thought of the passages, that we were given. The RCIA director, asked me to share my adoption story. It seemed to touch everyone in the room. I guess I really am so blessed, and have taken it for granted for so long. After we discussed Genesis, we were handed another passage to discuss. It was from the book of Exodus. Our passage was about Moses and the burning bush.

When we returned to the separate rooms again, I was asked to read the passage. After I read the passage, we started to discuss the meaning of it. My dad thought of the movie Ten Commandments, and how in the beginning when Charlton Heston goes to the top of the mountain, he is this handsome young man. When he comes down from the mountain, he is older and wiser, and I think that has meaning to it. It was cute and funny. My dad is so awesome.

After we discussed the second passage as a group, it was time for lunch. We said a prayer, and then went into another room to eat. Lunch was corn chowder, pastries, salad, and two different kinds of sandwiches. It was all so yummy. The assistant RCIA director, asked me about my spiritual background. I said, “well honestly, I really haven’t been too involved with it. I was kind of scared back in High school. I don’t think I had very good leaders. They kind of turned me off, from believing and being involved in my faith.” She said,”That is why so many young people leave the church!” I thought that may be so, but being here with my dad, and the leaders of SSJ it makes me want to believe again. There is something about getting back to your old roots, as an adult.

After lunch, we went to the church. It was about to be time for Dad to make his first confession. When we took our seats in the pews. BethAnn wanted us to just take a moment and listen to some music and meditate for a moment. She put on some Christian music, and we meditated for a while. She asked us to take a lighted candle, and put it in front of the altar. While we were on our way to the altar, she wanted us to think about something we wanted to pray for. I though of my dad. I am so proud of him.

Shortly after we set our candles down in front of the altar, Father J came into the church, and was going to say a few words to us and explain to us about confession, and then give the examination of our conscious.

When the music shut off, Father J turned on the lights, and took a seat right across from me. He and I shared glances at first. I couldn’t help it. The fact that he was a priest didn’t matter, as it should. I saw a man, not a priest. He was attractive, but I was flirting with a priest, and he was flirting back! He talked about confession, and the importance of it, and then gave the examination of the conscious. He thoroughly discussed the 7 deadly sins, and how they can prevent us from fully receiving God’s grace. Then, Don was the first to go into the confessional for confession, then my dad, who was in there for 45 minutes, or so it seemed.

While my dad was in the confessional, Beth Ann came over to talk to me, and asked me what I thought today, was going to be like, and I said, “Honestly, I wasn’t sure what today was going to be like. I haven’t been to a retreat in so long, maybe since high school.” I told her how much I liked it, and how nice it was to come back to my faith as an adult, especially in this setting. She was glad that I was getting something out of it. I thought about how much I have taken things for granted, especially so many blessings.

At one point, I glanced back at Karen, who was struggling with her faith, and the language. She is from Taiwan and was having a hard time with this transition, and my heart broke for her. My catholic faith was something I took for granted for so long, and then there are people, who like Karen probably struggle with the meaning, the process, and are probably scared.

When my dad came out of the confessional, he was so relieved and so happy. He knelt down did his penance, and then Father J came out of the confessional to talk to Karen. After he spoke with her, he approached me, and smiled. I have been flirting with him and the idea of going to confession. I think Beth Ann told him that I was considering it. I looked at him and smiled. He said, “You ready.” I swallowed and nodded my head. I stood up and walked back to the confessional with him. I told him I hear the Darth Vader theme in my head. He said, are you telling me I look like Darth Vader?” He laughed. I said, “No, it’s just I haven’t been to confession in so long.”

When I entered the confessional, I remember it being so much bigger. I looked around and took a seat on the bench. I looked over at Father J. He was leaning in through the window. He smiled at me. I smiled back. I took a deep breath. I said, “Bless me Father for I have sinned. It has been probably 10 years since my last confession.” He nodded. I looked up at him. I said, “I am sorry, I am not sure if I remember how to do this.” He smiled and said, “Take your time, and we can just have a conversation.” I said, “Okay.” I told him conversation how I struggled with my faith, took things for granted, and I am married to a wonderful man, who has a servant heart, and I have been given this amazing chance at life through my adoption, etc.

At the end of my confession, he told me for my penance to read over my wedding readings, and look at my life and see where God was trying to call me back, but I just wasn’t listening. I said, “I can do that.” He said, “Good. Now if you need the act of contrition it is on the wall.” I said, “Pshh I got this” and smiled. He laughed. We prayed the act of contrition. He said, “I absolve you from your sins.” I said, “Thank you Father.”
When I left the confessional, I felt so much better. I was on a high. My dad and I left to go home. I had to get my car at my parents’ house, and head back to Moon township. It has been a long day!

Guys Night Out

After work today, I went to my parents and Drew went out with his friend Zach. They were going to a pinball tournament in Carnegie. I was glad he was getting to spend some time with his buddy. My parents and I went to dinner at Red Lobster. My monthly visitor arrived today, so I was hurting a bit. I offered it up and didn’t take anything for it. I know childbearing is going to be so much harder. I can deal with cramps.

While we were at Red Lobster waiting for our table, I saw Drew’s friend Mike walk past me, and go outside. I called out, “Mike!” He turned around and said, “Hey Danielle!” He gave me a hug, and I asked who he was here with? He said, “I got the family here.” I walked outside with him and there they were. I hadn’t seen Stephanie, since my wedding I think. It has been that long! I hugged her, Emma and Stephen. Emma was showing me her My Little Ponies, that she got for her birthday. Stephen couldn’t wait to tell me when his birthday was and how old he is. I love them! Stephanie and I agreed we should hang out soon, and that it has been too long. I took a picture of them and sent it to Drew. I said, look who I found. He said, tell them I said, Hi! I told Mike that Drew was at a pinball tournament with Zach. He looked kind of dejected, like disappointed that he didn’t get to go.

When our table was called, I said goodbye to them and went and sat down with my parents. When I sat down with my parents, I got a text from Stephanie saying that Stephen was asking where Daniel Tiger went? and how they missed me. I loved it, so cute! I love being called Daniel, but only Maci was the only one that used to call me it. I guess it is just easier for kids to say, instead of Danielle.

After dinner, when we left I waved Goodbye to them, and then it was home to my parents to hang out for awhile. I was actually ready to go home, but I wanted to spend some time with my parents. We watched the movie, Jackie. Natalie Portman did a good job of playing Jackie Kennedy, but I much prefer Katie Holmes as Jackie Kennedy. I thought it was good, but it wasn’t exactly what I thought it was going to be. It was an Indie film and typically they are a little raw and one sided. The movie took place after the assassination of JFK, the burial plans, and her interview with a reporter after Jack’s death. There were certain things she would say, and then tell him. Don’t you think I am going to let you use that! I love anything about the Kennedy’s. They are so fascinating, modern royalty.

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After the movie, I went home and got a shower. When I laid down on the floor, I was stuck down there. I couldn’t get up. My cramps were so bad, that they were affecting my back. It felt like a I threw my back out. When Drew came home, he helped me up off the floor and felt so bad that I was in pain. He got me a heating pad, then it was bed time. I was so ready to fall asleep.

Meeting

This afternoon we had our meeting with Brett. He walked over with his portfolio. I was happy to see a familiar face, but nervous at the same time. I didn’t think Chris had it in the marketing budget to be able to afford the radio stations, but it was worth a shot.
Our meeting with Brett went well, and I was familiar with the software he was using on his phone, Salesforce. I have seen it in action, just never had to use it. Seeing Brett brought back so many damn memories. He was always such a good person. He was one of my favorite sales guys over there. He asked Chris some key questions about what does the ideal HR look like to him? How did he envision his target audience? How long does he want his ad to run? and whether or not we wanted a talent at the event? It was interesting to watch a sales meeting. I was never privy to that aspect of the radio.

After the meeting Brett said, he would get back to us with a proposal on Thursday since he is off Friday. Chris thought it was going to be too expensive, but wanted to flirt with the idea of having the spot on the radio, which means that I would get to voice the spot! I was excited at the thought of being in the studio again, only this time I was a client and recording a spot. I just wanted so badly to go in there, and throw it in their faces, but was that right reason to urge Chris to spend this kind of money? I am interested to see what Brett comes up with for us.

Church & Beauty and The Beast

Church & Beauty and The Beast

This morning, I woke up early to get up and go to my parents house. I was going to church with them.  When I got to my parents, I was able to see my dogs for bit, then it was time to go to church. Church was church, and I got to shake hands with Father J after mass.

After church, my mom and I went to breakfast at Hanlon’s. Daddy had to go to his RCIA class. After breakfast, my mom and I went shopping. I got a sweater and a dress at TJ Maxx, and she bought me some black pants that fit for work. I desperately need black pants in a smaller size, and I like the thinner look in the legs, not the wide look. I have so many that have that wide look, and I don’t really wear them.

Before we knew it, it was time for the movie, when we got to the to movies, it was packed with little girls in their fairy tale princess outfits. It makes me want a little girl one day! The movie was amazing! I loved it! The beginning showed how he Prince was vain and frivolous and the French fashion. Then it explained how the curse was put on the Prince.
Throughout the movie, it showed the backstory of Belle’s childhood and the Beast’s, which is something you didn’t see in the Disney version from the 90s. I definitely want to own it when it comes out on blu-ray. I still mourned the beast, when he turned into the handsome Prince. There was a ton of adult humor and innuendos throughout the movie, but it was classy, and tasteful. I just loved it. I can’t say anything bad about it, and there is not one thing I didn’t like about it.

When I got home, Drew was home working on the basement. I started doing my training for work. I could only manage to do it for an hour. I just think this material is so dry, and my heart is elsewhere when it comes to my job situation, so he was going to have to be good with only an hour of training. We will see, what tomorrow brings.

Day 2: New Deck and a Glimpse into the Past

That day, Will looked the same to me. I guess he has been clean for awhile now. I hope he continues to stay clean. It wasn’t awkward at all. He and I talked and laughed like old times. At one point, he even apologized for what he did to me when we dated. He admitted that he was a shitty boyfriend. I said, “We were young.” He said, “yeah, I know I just think about it sometimes, and how I hurt you.” I said, “Well it hurt more that she was my best friend, and the fact that you guys were trying to be sneaky about it. You two hooking up when I was in Florida visiting my grandma, but when I got home she didn’t even have the guts to tell me. You told me.” He understood. I said, “but it’s in the past and honestly it was so long ago, but thank you for apologizing.” He said, “You are welcome.” He kind of gave me a cute little look, like how he used to do when we were dating.  I think maybe he still thinks about the past and dwells on it so much is because of the drugs. The drugs probably don’t let him forget about the type of person he was when he was dating me, or the things that he did wrong. I feel like there was just this huge lapse in time for him that he can’t account for, and he hasn’t come to terms with his choices in the right and healthy way. He just shot them up. I don’t know I am not an addict so I don’t know what that is like, but I feel for him.

Honestly, it was nice that he apologized don’t get me wrong, but I don’t think about him anymore like that. I am not heartbroken over him, and I don’t think I ever really was all that heartbroken over Will. I just can’t stand the behind my back stuff. I never expected anymore from Amber. She was my best friend at the time, but so spineless when she had to go to bat for someone, or when it came to doing right by someone.

After they finished the deck, Drew came home and he went outside and checked out the deck. He liked it and was happy with the job they did. He asked about Will? I told him what he said, and Drew understood where he was coming from and was glad that he apologized, but didn’t have too much to say about it. We went to the gym that evening and then home to bed.

Fastest Labs Offer

Today, Dave started working on the deck. When he came over, the sun was out, but when he got set up to start working it started to rain, so he had to stop. It rained off and on, but he was able to get most of the deck finished. He was going to come back the next day to finish and he was bringing his son Will. Will is my ex boyfriend. We dated off and on a few times, but he never knew what he wanted and he wasn’t a good match. If you look back into my dating history, that always seemed to be the case with the guys I dated in my past. Will found himself hanging out with the wrong crowd, and wound up getting into drugs. He was trying to be a rapper at that time, as well. I do have a soft spot in my heart for him, because obviously you don’t want someone you know getting into drugs, and potentially dying, but you cannot save everyone from themselves.

While Dave was working on the deck, my phone rang and it was Chris from Fastest Labs. He offered me the job. I graciously accepted the position. I figured I could supplement the position and use it for now, until Pitt calls or something else comes through. I just had such an ick feeling when it came to dealing with people’s urine and I never had to deal with it before, and it was a new experience for me.

After I got off the phone with Chris, I called Drew and told him. He congratulated me, and told me that it was probably best for me to take this position for now. You never know where it could lead, but if Pitt calls obviously you should take that one instead. I agreed with him. What harm could it do? I need to work anyway. I was getting so bored just sitting around the house.  I called Earl, after I got off the phone with Drew. He said, just do this job for now. I wouldn’t recommend you if I didn’t think you could help this guy grow his business. I agreed. Then he said, you never know where it could lead. I told him that you are going to end up at Pitt at some point, but she can help you for now, so Chris is aware that I am not trying to stay here.

Shortly after Dave left for the day, Drew came home. We got ready and went to Home Depot. Then we went and got ice cream to celebrate my new job. He is so sweet. He tries.