Christmas with My Parents

Image may contain: 2 people, including Danielle Hornyak, people smiling, people standing and indoorThe day after Christmas Day we celebrated with my parents. We opened gifts. I got my Dad a gift card to the movies. My mom got some pieces to her Winterberry collection. I was anxious to see what we got from my parents. I think I already knew what I was getting, but Drew knew for sure we were getting the Nintendo Switch. I had asked for it for Christmas. Drew and I can’t stop playing it when we go to Best Buy.

It was our turn to open gifts, Drew got some beer glasses for his man cave. The glasses have his name on it. My parents gifted us with a Nintendo Switch, the Mariokart game, and a Paris calendar for our kitchen. We both received a little bit of money from them as well. I was so thankful and so happy. We couldn’t wait to go home and play Mariokart.

When I was younger, my dad and I used to play Super Nintendo. I am not a gamer, but I remember playing that console for hours. The graphics have come such a long way since the 90s. It looks so real now.

As the day went on, I started to feel a little sick in my stomach, but I was going to pull through it was Christmas. I wasn’t as bad as Drew, but there was something going around, plus we were eating all this different food.

At dinner, Drew and I prepped the food, and served my parents. It was nice and relaxing to finally be able to celebrate Christmas with my parents.

 

Last Day of Weddings

This morning, I drove to the chapel. When I arrived in Oakland, I was looking for a place to park. I wanted to park on the street instead of in the garage. I was hoping to be out of there quickly today. I parked on Tennyson Ave. There seemed to be a ton of “No Parking” signs everywhere else I looked.

When I walked towards the chapel, I noticed Pat was outside, putting up a new sign. I looked down at my flip flops and wondered, why is Pat here? I didn’t want her to say anything about me wearing flip flops. I clearly didn’t dress “professionally.” I was already in jeans yesterday, and I just didn’t care about my look. I was done today.

When I walked in, Pat thanked me again for helping out this weekend and didn’t say anything about my flip flops. I told her she was welcome. I then remembered she was there due to a memorial service. She also told me that the chapel was having a memorial service for Geri, once the students were back. I was glad to hear it.

When she left, I sat down at the desk and hung out on the computer, Frank went to take a break before the first wedding came in. I welcomed visitors before the wedding party started showing up, but once the party arrived I had to kick them out. I love kicking people out.

The first wedding arrived, and I started to help pin on boutonniere. I am not all that great at it, but I try. I was pinning on the groom mother’s boutonniere and she asked me what exactly my job was? I couldn’t help but have this confused look on my face. I said, “I am a wedding coordinator and docent.” she said, “Oh we thought you were a logistics person, because you seemed to be counting steps and etc.” I laughed and said, “No, I have to count how many people are in attendance. The Institutional Advancement people like the numbers.” I also told her this was my last weekend of weddings. I started a full-time job last week in the social sciences division here at Pitt.  What a strange group of people.

When it was time I took the groom and the best man to the back of the ambulatory. The groom didn’t look too thrilled about today. He told me that he and the bride had a fight last night, because he didn’t come back to the hotel room right after dinner. He went out and partied with some out-of-towners. I said, that I was sorry to hear that. He also told me that they have been living together for awhile, and this was a dog and pony show. I laughed. I couldn’t wait to get them out of here. They weren’t all that friendly, and seemed so miserable. The best man kept flirting with me and wanting to chat. I tried to ignore him. I couldn’t wait for the organist to play their entrance music, so I could send them out.

Once, I opened the door, and sent them out. I went downstairs, to the brides room and noticed only a few things seemed out of place. I picked them up and put them on the table outside of the bride’s room and checked out the carpet. It looked passable to me, so I shut the door and went upstairs. I set the ball of stuff on the back pew, and went to talk to Frank in the Narthax. Frank asked me how it looked I said, I grabbed some things and put them in the back pew, but it looked alright to me.

After the wedding, we opened the doors to let the guests out, then the party took pictures. They seemed to be taking pictures in the chapel for a while. When they left, they didn’t say thank you, or goodbye. They were the weirdest ever.

The next wedding party started to arrive, and if I remember correctly this was a big wedding. I set up the unity candle and the holder. I hung out in the narthax until it was time to go back to the ambulatory. While I was in the narthax, I noticed one of the grooms men trying to make eye contact with me. I am guilty of looking at him a few times. I wondered if I knew him from somewhere, but I wasn’t sure. I never forget faces, just names.

At one point, the groomsman approached me. I had my head turned. I was talking to Frank. The groomsman approached our desk and he introduced himself. It caught me off guard. I turned my head to see him standing there. He said his name was Shawn and he held out his hand. I shook his hand and said, “Danielle.” He said, “nice to meet you Danielle.” I said, “Likewise.” He said,”Do I know you from somewhere?” I said, “hmmm I don’t believe so.” He looked concerned, like wanted me to try to help him figure it out and not end the conversation, so I asked, “Where did you go to school?” He said, “RMU”, and smiled. I said, “Me too.” He said, “that must be it.” I nodded in agreement. I am married. I can’t move this on and play this game. Suddenly, a guest approached him to hug him and I thought just as best. I turned to Frank and whispered to him, “That was awkward.” He said, “Yea, it was. I think he was just trying to find any excuse to talk to you.” However, he kept trying to make eye contact with me. I just couldn’t shake this vibe about him. It border line bothered me.

At one point, I took the groomsmen back to the ambulatory until the ceremony began. Once the professional music started, I opened the doors and sent them out. I went down to the brides room and noticed there was nothing there, so I went back up to the Narthax. Frank approached me and said, “You didn’t vacuum the Bride’s room.” I said, “it didn’t look like it needed it.” Frank can be a bit of perfectionist.

The next wedding was my last wedding and I couldn’t wait for it be over. I was so ready to get out of there. I still had so much to do, to get ready for Drew’s birthday party tonight. As soon as the Bride went down the aisle and the Bride’s room was cleaned out, I was able to leave. Okay, well lets do this! I took the groom and best man, and one of the groomsmen back to the ambulatory. They kept asking me to go up to the pipes. I told them no. he said, “So what it is your last wedding.” I said, “No I cant take you up there, sorry.” They kept asking. I was getting so annoyed.

When the music started, I opened the doors and sent them out. I ran downstairs to the Bride’s room and noticed that it was a mess! There was stuff everywhere! I didn’t have time for this. I had until 6:00pm at the parking meter and it was 20 minutes until 6pm. I just took everything out the bride’s room and put it out in the hallway on the table. I am not taking all that upstairs. I am sorry not doing it. I am not vacuuming I have no time.
Once all their stuff was out and on the table, I went back upstairs to update Frank. I told him that I took all the stuff that was in the bride’s room and put it on the table in the hallway. I have to go. He said, “okay, no problem. Have a good time tonight.”

When I walked out of the chapel, I called my mom on the way to the car. I told her I was running so behind. I just got out of the chapel and I was walking to my car. I told her we might not be on time, but if they are then if they would please greet people,until we got there. She said she would and that it was okay. I got off the phone with her and drove home. I called Drew and he said, that it was okay and I didn’t have to stop and get candles, balloons, and a card. I could just come home. He understood. I was relieved, but it still sucks that I didn’t have a whole lot of time.

When I got home, I went to open the screen door and it was locked. I rang the door bell. I remember him saying he was going to get in the shower, so I was hoping he could come to the door, and why was the damn screen door locked? When he unlocked the door, he had a towel wrapped around his waist. He greeted me and then went back upstairs to get dressed. I ignored him. I was so pissed off. I said, “why is the screen door locked?” he said, I am sorry it is a habit. I didn’t do it intentionally.” I said, “I raced home to get ready for your birthday. I can’t stop and get anything because I don’t have time. I still have to get ready, and then I come home to a locked door!” He said, “I am sorry.” I said, “If I come home again and that door is locked, I will leave and not come home.” I flipped out. We had a huge argument. I said, “Try to see things from my angle for a minute. I have asked you numerous times to not lock the screen door. Lock the big door, fine I have a key to that.” I went upstairs, and just slammed the door and cried. I had a huge break down.

After awhile, Drew came up into the extra bedroom and we talked. I told him I am stressed. I had to be at the chapel until 5:30pm, the bride’s room was a mess, I started a new job, I have been working weekends, and agreeing to help. I haven’t bitched once. I just did it. Then I planned your party, and we aren’t going to be on time. I didn’t have time to get things for you. I am rushed and we are going to be late. Without me you wouldn’t have a party.” He just listened and apologized. I apologized too. I was just having a breakdown. I am stressed. It was a bunch of little things adding up to big things. It was a lot for me.

When we made up, I got up and got into the shower. I got dressed, and did my hair, then we were out the door for his party. When we arrived to the bowling lanes, my mom and his mom were walking in. Drew dropped me off with the cake, and then parked. I walked in with them. I hugged his mom and my mom. I told them I am sorry we are late. I just had a break down. His mom said, “Well it’s over now. You can just focus on the job.” I agreed with her. I know she is right. I knew it was silly.

After we finished up at the front desk, we were told we had lanes 17-22. We walked over to the lanes, and set up. We changed shoes, and grabbed our bowling balls. My dad, my mom, Andrew’s dad, Andrew, and I all bowled. Leanne, Dan, Maci, and Jada were the first to arrive. Then Zach, Mike, Stephanie, Nikki, Paul, Anthony, and Dylan. Anthony and Dylan didn’t bowl they just hung out. I ended up giving up three lanes. I didn’t think we were going to need them. The kiddies had a lane. Nikki and Paul didn’t bowl, they just hung out. Zach didn’t bowl. Mike and Stephanie bowled a couple games. Andrew’s dad bought three pizzas, and the first two pitchers of beer. Andrew and I bought the next two pitchers of beer. My mom and my dad wanted to buy the next two pitchers, but we ended up having enough.

At one point, Paul, Nikki’s boyfriend, bought Andrew a birthday shot at the bar, so they disappeared for a bit. I was apprehensive about him drinking, especially after the day we had so far. I just didn’t want to deal with it now, and not tonight.

When it was time for gifts, Drew opened my dad’s gift first it was an autographed Tony Dorsett Pitt helmet. Drew was so shocked and so surprised. He had no clue. He said, “no way!” He loves it. We are going to have to get a case for it. He was so happy. My parents also gave him a card with some money inside. My mom didn’t know about the helmet, so that must mean it was expensive. Andrew’s parents got him a Fitbit and two polos. I was so excited new polos! Andrew laughed. I know he is picky about his polos and I was afraid they were going back to the store.

After gifts, we cut the cookie cake and people started leaving. Drew took his gifts out to the car. When he walked in, Liz and Brad were with him. I was glad they showed.  Leanne, Dan, Nikki, Paul, and Jada. Then, Mike and Stephanie. Zach left early too. Our parents were going to leave as well. So we all decided to leave and go to the Seashell. No point in being here if we are not going to bowl.

When we said goodbye to our parents, we all went to the Seashell. I drove. When Drew and I walked in, I ordered a Shirley Temple and Drew ordered a beer. We got a table and sat in the karaoke section. I was definitely planning on singing. Once you get through one song, you want to sing more. Anthony and Dylan showed up and met us there. Then Liz and Brad. I was hoping Anthony and Dylan were going to sing.

While Drew entertained Liz and Brad, Anthony, Dylan and I sang karaoke. We sang Spice Girls, Love Shack, NSYNC, and Destiny’s Child. Dylan sang Landslide solo. Anthony and I sang save a horse ride a cowboy. I also sang Tom Petty, which I don’t think I did very well at, but it was all in good fun.

At one point, Drew ran into some people that he used to know from OLSH, and then they wanted to buy him a birthday shot. He went up to the bar and did a shot and stood there talking to them. I knew this was going to be a long night. I had Anthony and Dylan next to me. Liz and Brad across from me. I wasn’t sure what to talk to them about. They were more Drew’s friends then mine. I asked Brad about his job, and the bus. I wasn’t sure what much else to say. Drew was up at the bar at this point three shots in, when finally he came back to the table. He smiled at me. He knew I was not liking where this was going.

After we left the seashell, it was around 11pm, I drove him home and when we got home. Another disagreement happened, because all my friends do is over analyze everything and how supposedly I hardly talked to his friends, which is not true. I did talk to his friends. He was annoyed by my friends, so he was trying to put some of the blame on me, as well and he was a bit drunk I think. He was feeling the alcohol and it was making him say dumb things, which usually happens when he drinks. I told him to stop doing this, if this is how it is going to be I am not going to put up with it. I will not take the blame because you are pissed at something else.

Eventually he apologized and didn’t mean what he said. I knew it was the alcohol. It is not good. I won’t deal with it all the time. He needs to stop doing shots if this how he is going to be. We have to work at this, I guess. I have had much better days.

Christmas Day

In the morning, we woke up we opened gifts with each other, and then got ready to go to his parents’. We already knew each other’s gifts. I received a FitBit Alta from Drew. I gave Drew wireless headphones that are like mine, but they are black. We relaxed, until it was time to get Grandma. We had to pick Grandma up at 12pm, then go to Oakdale to his parent’s new house.
After we got there, my parents showed up, and it was so nice to have my parents there. We were finally all together on a holiday! Megan and I drank wine together all day. It was nice and relaxing. My mom helped clean up with Aunt Tootsie in the kitchen. I was glad everyone was there. It makes things so much easier, on Drew and I without having to travel back and forth on Christmas. We left around 8pm and took Grandma home. It is hard to get her in and out of the car. Once we got home, we relaxed for the rest of the evening. Another Christmas in the books.

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Good News from CMU

Today, was such a slow and boring day. I gave Paula the little gift I bought her. I was glad that she enjoyed it and wasn’t expecting it. I love surprising people. Frank was a little annoying today. He seemed to not want to do anything and when a task did come up, he seemed to not want to really do it. We had our last Taco Bell lunch yesterday and then it was back to work.  Paula caught him reading in the afternoon, and told him to go learn the front desk area. He said, that he planned on doing that tomorrow, but Paula said, well how about now? I didn’t say anything I just sat there and watched the two of them. His inexperience is so prevalent.
However,  Frank spent some time in the front office, and then came back into the jazz office. I refreshed my e-mail, waiting for my Partylite shipment confirmation, when an e-mail came through from Anthony Downs, HR for Carnegie Mellon. Gloria Gruber, the woman whom I had the phone interview with, wanted to invite me to interview in-person! I can’t believe it. I did it! How did I do it? With all that is coming and going on around me, jazz seminar, and frank! I was not sure how I pulled that out of my hat, but I did. I ran down the hall to tell Phil and helped me construct my e-mail response, so I am so super happy! I can’t believe I did it! I told Anthony that I would be available this Friday, so Thursday is my last day! I am going to miss it here at Pitt, but onward and upwards I go.
As I was waiting for the Andrew to meet me at the bus stop, I couldn’t wait to tell him the news. I was so excited that I got through. When I told him, he was so happy and so excited for me. He wants to help me get prepared and he gave me all this advice, and asked me all these questions, and I won’t know anything until I get the itinerary! My own itinerary!
When we got back to the car, we went to Home Depot to get ceiling paint, then it was home to watch the Pitt Game. I refused to make dinner, since we still had left overs in the fridge, so I went upstairs, got a shower, and came back down in time to watch the Pitt basketball game. It was a relaxing evening. Tomorrow is a gym day!

Andrew’s 31st Birthday

Andrew’s 31st Birthday

Today, we went to the pool until about 2:30-3:00pm. Then we went home, the storm clouds were approaching and they were coming in fast. We went home to get ready for Andrew’s birthday party tonight. We wanted to to the Haufbrahaus there a little earlier, grab a table, and order some beers and the pretzel bites. We thought they were going to be packed since it is a Saturday.

When we got there, we got a table in the mess hall, and we had a huge long table for just us and our friends and family. We had some time together alone before people started to arrive. We also had the same server as two years ago, who waited on us, which was so cool! She remembered us, as well.
My parents arrived, and brought Drew his gift and two birthday cards. One was funny, and the other was a sweet son-in-law card. My dad bought him a picture framed with two tickets to the Steelers game, a picture of Franco Harris, and a program from the game. Drew loved it. Something for his man cave, then his parents arrived, and Zach came. After Zach arrived, Ben and Tricia showed up. Drew was on his 3rd beer at that point.

andrews-31st-birthday-weekend-2After we had dinner, and some drinks Ben and Tricia showed up, as my parents and his parents were leaving. We all went outside to the Beer Garden. Andrew at this point was on his 4th huge pint of beer. I knew this was going to be a long night. When we were in the Beer garden, Anthony and Dylan arrived for drink, and left. Then Patrick, Zach’s brother showed up, and he had a drink with us as well. It was nice to see most of Andrew’s friends show up.

At around 12:30am, it was time to get the Birthday boy home. I made sure I had his cards, he had already put the gift my dad got him in the truck, so that was safe, now to get this man home, who keeps saying it is his name day; too many episodes of Game of Thrones!

On the way home, I am driving. I reach over to touch Drew’s hand. We are a few feet away from almost being home and getting on the Thorn Run Exit. I had to pull over on 376, and he got out of the car, and managed to get vomit on the door, before getting out of the car, and vomiting up the rest. I felt bad, but I wasn’t sure what to do. I looked in the mirror, there were no cars coming. It was about 2am. It would be my luck if a cop pulled up right now, at this very moment. I got out of the car, and rubbed his back, he had vomit and snot dripping from him. I felt so bad for him, but at the same time, he did this to himself. I helped him in the back seat. I had nothing to give him to wipe his face, because we didn’t have any napkins or paper towels (I keep a roll in the car with me now though).

I finally got us home, and got him inside. He kept apologizing and I felt so bad for him. I got him wiped up and he started crying. He was so drunk. He told me how much he loved me and how sorry he was that he got like this, and that he let me down. I said that he didn’t let me down and it was okay, I forgive him, but he can’t get like this anymore.  He agreed. I got him in the shower, and I got random clothes on, so I could go outside and clean the car after I got him settled.

Once he was in bed, I went outside and cleaned the vomit out of the car. Surprisingly, it did not smell and thank God it did not, because then I would have vomited. It looked white like oatmeal. It didn’t take me long, then I went back inside, dressed in some pjs and climbed into bed with my lush husband.