Christmas Eve Stomach Bug

This morning Drew was not feeling well. He was feeling queasy. He blamed it on the movie theater popcorn. We got out of bed and went downstairs. He sat down on the floor and looked a little spacey like he was going to vomit. He made his way to our powder room and up came the popcorn and the Diet Coke from the night before. I felt so bad for him. I rubbed his back until he came up. I flushed the toilet and got him cleaned up. He sat down on a chair in our dining room and I put a cold wash cloth on his face. I knelt down in front of him I said. I am going to call my mom and cancel. You just go up and rest. We can still open gifts later if you want. He said, “I am so sorry baby. it is Christmas Eve.” I said, don’t feel bad. We can still watch It’s a Wonderful life (its our tradition) and celebrate, but you need to rest. Then he went back upstairs to go to sleep.

I got a shower, and then to the store, grabbed some chicken noodle soup Gatorade, and some bread. I called mom to cancel and that we would see her tomorrow at Drew’s parents. I came home and he was back on the floor. I smiled and he smiled. I got him some Gatorade and wrapped the gifts for tomorrow. I had so much to do. I work better under stress, I guess. I did get a little emotional. I know it’s silly, but at there is so much prep for Christmas, and when the situation is less than ideal the emotions get to you. I didn’t want him to feel bad, or think it was his fault that he was sick. I felt bad for canceling with my parents. I know my mom looks forward to seeing us and the holidays. I was a bit of a mess, but it this too shall pass.

In the evening, we opened gifts together. He got me a white gold chain for my diamond pendant that he bought me when we first started dating. The chain that I previously had broke. I got him a robe with his initials stitched into it. He immediately put it on and wore it the rest of the evening. I was so happy he liked it. We still watched It’s a Wonderful Life Together.

It’s a Wonderful Life is my Christmas Eve tradition. It started when I was younger. My grandma would come up from Florida for Christmas. She would send her gifts up a head of time and then she would arrive a week before Christmas and go back to Florida right before New Years Eve, but Christmas always reminded me of her. She would watch old movies in the living room and around that time of the year It’s a Wonderful life would come on and I never realized the significance of the movie and the message until I got older, but I always remember the line at the end, “Every time a Bell rings an angel gets its wings.”

After grandma passed away, we would go to my parent’s friends’ house for Christmas Eve and we would eat dinner, and spend the evening there. While the adults would spend time talking at the dining room table, I would go into the living room and the movie It’s a Wonderful Life would be playing and there it was the line, “Every time a Bell Rings an Angel gets it’s wings….” I would smile and know that my grandma was still there at Christmas time. It’s sentimental I know.

Now every year on Christmas Eve, I make it a point to sit down and watch the movie It’s a Wonderful Life. Drew loves the movie. He loves taking part in the tradition. I take part in his traditions as well. Even though he wasn’t feeling well, I am glad we were together on Christmas.

Marriage, Uncategorized

Date Night the Nutcracker Ballet

This morning, I had hair appt then we were going to see the Nutcracker. I was so excited to go. I love the Nutcracker ballet. When I was younger, my mom took me to see it a couple times. She never really was into the ballet, but I thought it was so magical. When I was younger, I took dance classes. I always took ballet. I tried tap, jazz, and gymnastics, but ballet was my thing. When Drew and I were dating, we went to see the Nutcracker with our moms, but this was the second time seeing it together, but first time by ourselves as a married couple.
The evening started out at dinner at Ten Penny. Drew made reservations and everything. I was so happy. We had a both chose the steak and I had a couple glasses of wine. We talked about how things are slowing down, and we were ready for winter break. We talked about school and our accomplishments and what we want to accomplish in the future it was nice. I couldn’t wait for the ballet.
After dinner, we walked to the Benedum hand-in-hand. It felt like old times, like we were dating again. It was nice. Once inside the Benedum, we got our tickets at will call and then made our way to the wine. In order to take your wine, or your alcoholic drink of choice in to the theater you have to buy a Cultural trust cup that comes with a lid and a straw. You have to keep the lid on and the straw in the cup in order to enjoy your drink during the performance.
After we got our drinks, Drew bought some sugar-coated almonds and he also bought me a Christmas ornament, ballet slippers. I was so happy. We made our way downstairs to use the restroom before the performance.  A sugarplum fairy along with a photographer was placed cattycorner from where the restrooms are located. You could get your picture taken with her. Drew paid for me to get my picture with the sugarplum fairy. I was surprised. He is so thoughtful.
After my picture with the Sugarplum fairy, we made our way to our seats in the theater. We had pretty decent seats, orchestra center. The ballet began and it was magical. I was so glad he was there with me. So many times, have I been to the ballet and have seen women with their significant others, and I wondered what that would be like, having your significant other actually want to be there with you and I have to admit it was a good feeling. I am a lucky and blessed woman.

Grad School

First Day of the Fall Semester

Today, was the first day of the Fall semester. I felt like I was as ready for my second semester as I will ever be. I had my book bag packed, syllabus printed and ready to go. All I had to do was get through the work day first.

At work, Nancy was off. I forgot that she was off today, or maybe she told me and I wasn’t listening that happens too sometimes. It was the first day of the semester. I had so many e-mail requests and syllabi to make copies of. Some students wanting into classes that were full, and etc. It was a bit of a nightmare, but I kept it under control and handled it pretty well.

When it was time for class, I left department at 4:15pm to go up to the classroom. I was going to be in this same room on Wednesday as well. When I walked in, the room was in pods, like grade school. I wasn’t sure about all that, but okay. I sat with Julia, because supposedly we were in the same reading group, so I guess that meant we were at the same table.

Honestly, the excel spreadsheet was pretty confusing. I don’t know how I felt about that, but whatever. I ended up being at the wrong table. Julia was at the wrong table as well. I didn’t know anyone at my discussion table, except this girl from the Dean’s office, that I had to pick up keys from a couple days ago. She recognized me and we talked, other than that I didn’t know a soul at the table.

After we got situated, she let us go around the room. She wanted to know our name, where we are from, and what we did over the summer that was interesting. After introductions, the professor introduced herself. She gave an overview about herself and her background and her interests. She seems intense but in a good way. I think she will be challenging.  I like that. She gives off good energy too.

Honestly, this class will be the reading intensive class 200 pages a class, and it is going to be interesting. I am ready for it I think, but I find myself confused over the assignment for next week. I am thinking too much about it I think. I don’t know. I am sure it will be okay. It is the first day.

After class, we were out by 7:10pm. I couldn’t wait to see Drew. I met him at the cathedral. He was just getting out of his Slovak class. I was wondering what he would say about his class.

When I met him at the cathedral, I felt so much better. I felt more calm about everything. He is my light. He told me about his class, and I told him about mine. He learned the alphabet in Slovak so far so good. I am proud of him.


Andrew’s 33rd Birthday

At lunch today, Nancy and I got pizza for lunch and invited Gene, Patty, Lindsay, and Kim. We never sit down and eat lunch together. It was nice. I was so over pizza. Drew and I ordered pizza last night for dinner. I am excited for the  concert tonight. It is going to such a chill night.
After work, I met up with Andrew at the fountain, outside of the cathedral. He was walking down the steps and I got a good look at him. You know when you look at your spouse and you see them for the first time in a long time and they just look so good to you, even though you have looked at them 100 thousand times, but this time just seems different. We kissed, and then walked to the bus stop together.
Once we got to the bus stop, a bus that we needed to take was sitting at the red light. We still had time to hop on, but he seemed as though he didn’t want to open the doors and pick us up, but he did anyway. Once we got on the bus, and sat down Andrew asked me, “What was his problem?” I thought the same thing, but I just shrugged and said, “It’s your birthday!” He smiled and we kissed again. I don’t want him worrying about stupid petty drama on his birthday.
At the stop for the T-Station, we got off the bus, and walked across the street. We took the steps down to the T-Station. We took the T to North Shore, and walked to our car. We dropped off our stuff and our bags, and then went to get something to eat at Southern Tier.
On our way to Southern Tier, we had to walk a little ways past the stadium. I didn’t mind the walk. It felt like the first time we walked like this since, Paris.  I do miss walking all over Paris and London. We walked past the concert venue Stage AE where the concert was tonight and some people were already standing around. I didn’t think this was going to be a packed show, but I could be wrong. When we bought the tickets they were buy one get one free. I wonder if the hype for nostalgia is slowing dying. I hope not. I love the 90s alternative music, and the nostalgia.
When we walked into Southern Tier, I gave the hostess my name, they said about 30-40 mins. I looked back at Drew he said, he was cool with it. They were going to text us when our table was ready. We figured we would just go to the bar and if something opens. At the bar, they so many beers on draft. I didn’t know what to choose from. I decided on the Lemon Sun Drop beer. It was like a Lemon Shandy. Because it was Drew’s birthday he got a free Crowler.  I guess it is spelled like Growler typically, but not at Southern Tier, they  spell it Crowler. He chose the Lemon Sundrop to have in his Crowler. We were going to walk it back to the car before we went to the concert venue. I was glad he didn’t drink all that beer before the concert, although he probably would have in the past, but we can’t party like we used to anymore.                                    Image may contain: one or more people, people sitting, drink and indoor         There were two guys standing at the end of the table, they ordered their food, and put the food menu back on the bar. Drew and I were talking about just standing here and ordering food. Drew asked the guys at the end of the table, and they said, they just put the food menu on the bar. One of the guys went and got the food menu from the bar top, and then handed it to Drew. He didn’t have to do that, but he did. He seemed like a nice guy.  Drew bought him a beer. While Drew was at the bar, I asked the guys if they were going to the concert tonight. They said, “No, but who is in town?” I said, “Gin Blossoms and Tonic.” They nodded their heads they said, they were in town for a golf outing. I smiled and said, “Very cool. where are you from?” They said, “Ohio.” I said, “Oh are you brown’s fans?” They said, “No, we are not.” They laughed. I laughed and I didn’t really talk to them too much anymore I didn’t want them to think I was flirting. I have to be careful with that. I am naturally friendly and bubbly, but it comes off very flirty.
When the waitress brought our food, we ate and then had to cash out, so we could walk to the car, before going to Stage AE. I wasn’t all that hungry, so I just ordered a soft pretzel. I am so sick of carbs. Drew had a pork roast sandwich and fries. He didn’t have pizza for lunch. 🙂
After we got back from the car, with his crowler tucked away safely, we were on our w way to Stage AE. The line of people didn’t extend too far. We were right by the ramp, that leads up to the grassy area. Once I was there for Breaking Benjamin, a few years ago the line wrapped around the sidewalk.
Once inside the venue, there is a Coors Light stand, and the restrooms are like trailers that line the back wall. They are really nice if you go before the show starts, if you wait until after, then they will be a mess. I made sure to go before the show starts. Stage AE is such an awesome venue. If you want to be in the grass you have that option, if you want to be in the pit you have the option, there is not a bad seat in the place. If you are a high roller, than there is a section of tables and chairs, but that is no way to see a concert. I prefer the pit, but Drew has a complex about him being so tall, so we stick to the grass, but I have been in the pit before and it nice to be close to the band. Stage AE was giving out free sunglasses that night. Drew got them when he went to get us drinks. He said, “I figured you would want them.”
Stage AEWhile we were waiting for the opener to come on stage, I started  talking to this couple next to me. The one said, he used to work for iHeartMedia, the radio stations in Greentree. I said, “Oh wow no way, i was there 2014-2015. The guy said, he left before I got there. He told me how he did on-air stuff and promotions for 96.1 kiss, and 96.1 the river. I remember right before 96.1 Kiss FM happened, there was a station called 96.1 The river. It didn’t last long though. He knows all the same people that I know. Drew was so cute he was talking me about how I did on-air stuff with Scottro, recording the bumpers, and practicing my air checks, I was flirting with the idea of trying to become an on-air talent. After talking all about radio, we then talked about where all we went to high school. He said, “I went to OLSH.” I said, “No way, I went to OLSH.” He said, “Oh my God, what year did you graduate?” I said, “2006.” He said, “Oh i was gone long before you got there.” I forget what year he said, he graduated, but I think it is the same year that our neighbor graduated OLSH. He is a bit older than us.
The opener came on and it was a band named Punchline.  They weren’t all that great. However, they sounded similar to Yellowcard. I loved Yellowcard. While the opener was playing, we saw someone walk through the walkway, that looked familiar. Andrew said, “I think that is Sarah Woessner.” I looked over and leaned over the railings and yelled, “Sarah Woesnner!” She turned around walked over to me and hugged me. I hadn’t seen Sarah in so long! She was with Jess Rogers. They both hugged me, and then came up and around into our grassy area. Drew hugged them both. he didn’t remember Jess right off the bat, but he did remember Sarah. Sarah looks the same.  It was good to see her. We caught up for a bit, and then she dragged Drew and I down to the pit and told Drew to get over his height complex.

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Once inside the pit, the view is so much better. I love seeing a concert from the pit.  I took a selfie with Jess as well. I don’t think I have seen her since high school.   Jess told me how much she loved me in high school, she thought I was so nice and just a good person. She reminded me of a time when people were bullying her and I stuck up for her. I guess I apparently cussed some people out for making fun of her. I laughed when she told me about the memory. Yea, it sounds like something I would do. I just laughed. It felt so good to hear. Jess was a sweet girl and still is a sweet girl.

The view from the pit was incredible. I love seeing concerts from the pit. After the opener ended, Tonic’s set began. Image may contain: 1 person, on stage, playing a musical instrument and night They opened with “Open Up Your Eyes.” The lead singer, Emerson Hart’s voice has definitely changed. It is a little noticeable. However, they were still good to see live. This was our second time seeing them. The best is when they played, “If could Only See.” Jess, Sarah, and I danced together like we were in high school again. It was so cool, but this band came out long before we were in high school! Sometimes the lead singer, tells the audience the backstory of the song. “If you Could Only See”, is about a relationship that the lead singer had with an older woman, and his mom did not approve of the relationship. I was like oh wow I did not know that was true. Drew told me this was the back story, but part of me didn’t believe him. They also played, “You wanted More.” I didn’t know that song was written for the American Pie movie. The things you learn when you attend 90s concerts.
After Tonic, Gin Blossoms came on stage, and we haven’t seen the Gin Blossoms since 2013. We were due, but man they aged a bit. It is amazing what a couple years can do. They played all their hits and some new songs. We didn’t care so much for the new stuff, we wanted the old hits. Robin, the lead singer came down into the crowd and played his tambourine with some of the people in the audience. They finished with “Follow You Down.” I love seeing them live. It truly was so awesome.



Job Experiences', Job Journey, Job Lessons, University of Pittsburgh

Hard Decisions

Every day there are so many decisions a person has to make. What time should I get up? What should I wear? Should I wear a sweater? or perhaps it is too hot and won’t need one? so, then what bus do I need to take? What should I eat for lunch? Hot or iced coffee? Life is so full of decisions, and if we stopped and thought about how many times we struggle with decisions every day, I bet the number would be up there, and it would be be pretty high.

Currently, I am struggling with a huge decision, and I think it is pretty obvious what my answer should be. I am presently employed with the University of Pittsburgh’s ALL TEMP’s department. I am in my third temporary assignment. The assignment that I am fulfilling is Wedding Coordinator/Docent for the Heinz Chapel. The plan is for me to start out at as a temp and then be brought on as a part-time employee, if my performance is satisfactory.

Prior to accepting the position with Heinz Chapel, I had been on several interviews. Some I have made it to the second round, others not so much. However, since I have started this position with Heinz Chapel, I have been keeping pretty busy, and kind of forgot about the Social Sciences position that I interviewed for back in early June, so I did send a follow up e-mail for two reasons.

  • It has been awhile, since I heard anything and I just wanted to follow up. I would love to be the candidate of their choice.
  • It would be nice to have my weekends back again.

I did eventually hear back from Social Sciences via e-mail. I was relived that they still wanted to pursue me. In the e-mail, she stated that she wanted to reach out to my references. I dialed her office number, and thankfully she had a few minutes to speak to me. I wanted to make her aware of a few things before she reached out to my references.

First, I wanted to let her know that there is someone not saying such nice things about me. It is not one of my references, I think it may be someone from my first assignment at Pitt. I just said, I think I rubbed elbows with someone the wrong way. She said, well thank you for your honesty, as long as you learned from it. I said, yes I have. I think my personality gets in the way sometimes. She said, that she could tell that would be my biggest challenge, is my bubbly personality. She also said, that she used to be just like me, but she has had to learn to tone it down in order to let it get in the way of work. I was glad she was able to empathize with me, and wasn’t going to let that interfere with my chance of being the candidate for the position.
Secondly, I told her about my employment at Heinz Chapel, and how I do not want Pat or Wendy to know that I am considering employment elsewhere. I made sure she knew that I was only a temp, so she would know that it would be okay to still pursue me as the candidate. She understood, and asked how I found out about what that one person was saying about me. I told her that I kind of pushed Pat, and she gave me an idea of who it was, and not to be worried about it.
Thankfully, Linda was understanding. She told me the next step would be for her to contact my references, and once she does so, she will be in touch with me regarding the next step. This conversation took place on Monday, and it is now Thursday. I have heard that she has been in contact with all the references, I imagine, and I am waiting to hear back from her. I understand we are about to embark on a holiday weekend, so I am not trying to think too much, but it would be so nice to know that I am the candidate and it is in the Dean’s hand, and then in the Provost’s hand. I just want to be the one.
Today, I am at the desk working as a docent, and I get a call from RMU. It was Professor DiLauro on the phone. He wanted to see if I was still interested in the part-time position with RMU. I said, oh wow. He said, Yes I know I sent you a letter of rejection, and I want to apologize, but the position became available again, and you were one of the top candidates for the position. I said, “Yes, I am.” Because I was still interested, but just for the sake of conversation I wanted to know what happened to the candidate that he chose? and why the position was open again so soon? He said, “Well she went through the whole process, then decided that part-time just wasn’t going to cut it for her.” I said, “I understand.” I thanked him for his honesty, and then decided it was my turn to be honest. I told him about the opportunities here at Pitt, and how there is probably going to be an offer coming from the Social Science department, and that it would be an opportunity to be a Full-time employee of the University of Pittsburgh. He was actually happy for me, and said well how about we do this, send me over an e-mail with some references, and then I will contact them and get the ball rolling over here. I know you said, they are supposed to get in touch with you, so lets say get in touch with me by Wednesday, July 5 and I will keep the window open for you. I agreed that should be enough time, but at the same time, when was she going to call me?
When I got off the phone with him, I immediately texted Drew, and told him. He said, “Oh wow,” which was my reaction, as well.  He told me that if I turn down this opportunity at Pitt, then there is a good chance, that I may never get the opportunity to work at Pitt again, considering all that has happened to me here. He then said, if I wanted to apply at RMU in the future I could, but for right now I need to accept this opportunity with Pitt. He told me that I know Social Sciences is going to make you an offer, it’s just a matter of time. He may be right, but at the same time RMU would provide for me a fresh start, a chance to go to grad school without the GRE score, and the schedule would work fabulously when we have children, plus RMU is home to me. Pitt, would be great to get into it, but at the same time I wouldn’t be able to attend grad school without a gre score, and on top of that we would definitely need day care, if I were to stay at Pitt while we had children. He says, he has a bad feeling about this and brought up the awful thing that happened when I decided to leave the radio station for a position where I was misled. I hate when people bring that up, especially him. If anyone knows, what I went through that day, it was him, and this is nothing compared to what I have been through, this is a whole new beast.

After texting with Drew, I know what he is saying. I get it. Leaving Pitt for an opportunity with RMU would probably hurt my chances of ever getting back into Pitt. I don’t think it is the best idea. However, I have been waiting for an opportunity to come along with RMU for so long. While I was feeling emotional, and trying not to cry, a tour of about 42 people came in. A mix of children and adults. I  thought this was a scheduled tour, so I asked them all to sit in the middle of the chapel, in view of the transept windows. Pat, my director, was talking to some people in the chapel. I politely interrupted her, and asked if she would turn around, when she did she saw the group of people, she looked at me. I said, “is this your tour?” She said, “wow, no.” I said, “Okay, well should I get a mic?” she said, “I don’t think you need one.” I said, “Okay.” I did not want to do this right now. I was so emotional, from the conversation and torn with my decision, this is not what I wanted to do. I put my best smile on, and looked at the group of children. I asked them, “So who here, knows what Heinz ketchup is?” they all raised their hands. I said, “Great, who knows what heinz field is?” They all raised her hand. I said, “Well this chapel, was a gift from H.J Heinz to his mother. He left a sum of money when he passed away, that something be done with it to honor his mother, so boys this is what you should do to honor your mother.” They all looked at me like I lost my mind, and the adults all laughed. I also said, if you look at the windows you will see some familiar faces, does anyone recognize anyone in the windows?” They all raised their hands. I said, “No, need just shout.” They all shouted, “George washington, Ben Franklin, Abraham Lincoln.” I said, “Correct. Heinz’s mom, thought religion and education were very cool things to have in our minds, and in our hearts, so this chapel combines both, religion and education.” Then, a little boy raised his hand, and said, I called on him and he said, “I see something modern here.” I said, “What is that?” he said, “The exit sign.” I said, “Yes you are very observant.” then Pat, chimed in and said, “Also, if you feel that cold air. We had climate control installed, and an elevator put in.” I got a little annoyed. Pat they don’t give a shit about climate control they are kids.

When she was finished, I also mentioned something about the Gothic architecture. I said,”If you look at the stone and the way it is carved, and the pointy elements of the chapel. Doesn’t it remind you of Hogwarts and Harry Potter?” they all agreed and smiled. I said, this p. articular architecture is called Gothic.” They asked when it was built? I said, 1933 is when the ground was broken, and it became a legit building in 1938.” They seemed to have liked my tour. We turned the organ on for them for a few minutes, then they were were out the door.

After the tour, I checked my phone. I told Drew I din’t want to talk about this anymore, until I saw him. He brought me some water, when he was on his way over. I wasn’t mad when I saw him, but I was passionate. I wanted to make this decision for myself. We did have a donor in the building, so I pulled out a folding chair for him to sit in, and we talked it all out. I told him that, if we weren’t married I would be able to make this decision for myself, and not have to involve anyone else, but I probably would have made the wrong decision, without having counsel from you.” He nodded his head and agreed. Individuality is something that I cherish, and this is not one of those times where I can make a decision on my own. I have to consider the other person in this marriage, and I think maybe that was bothering me too.

Overall, I didn’t even have an offer from Linda yet, so I was fair game for anything in my mind, but I do have to do what is best. Andrew understood what I was saying, and he said, that he didn’t like how I was second best with RMU. He said, I didn’t deserve that. I agree. I don’t deserve to be second best. I know what I need to do, and that is focus on Pitt.

When we left the chapel, and got on the bus. I was in a good state of mind. We were in a good state. I decided to not go to the gym. I just made some chicken, and hung out. I watched Jamestown and did some laundry. I just feel emotionally worn out, and didn’t feel like working out, so I worked    on my blog, and did some laundry.

Marriage, October, Uncategorized

One-Year Anniversary Trip to Seven Springs

Today, we had off work. We were going away for our one-year anniversary and my birthday. I was so excited to get a away and spend a much needed vacation away from the jazz seminar and Pittsburgh. We went to the gym and then got packed up. On our way to seven springs, we stopped for breakfast at Eat n Park. It was a great way to kick off our mini vacation.

The entire road trip up to seven springs, the drive was so nice, even though it did rain a bit, but it was still nice. When we arrived, we went up to our room. We were staying in the main lodge area, and it reminded me of the shining. Our room was all the way at the end of the hall. Autumn Fest started tomorrow, so there really wasn’t anyone up there that night, but Andrew and I were determined to make the most of out of it. After we got settled in our rooms, we were the only ones looking to party. We stopped in the gift shop and bought a shot glass and a wine glass,  and then we went to the bistro. We got some drinks, and met some people, who were there for a wedding that was happening that weekend. The same minster who married Tommy and Megan was there to marry this couple. We talked to the brides’ brother and his friends, and the cousin of the bride, which was a kicker for ULSC.


After a few drinks, we went to get changed for dinner. We were going to go to this place called Timbers. It was a burger joint. I had soup and salad. Andrew had a burger, and fries. It was nice to watch everyone coming and going all the families. Over dinner, we talked about my job situation since I was not the top pick during the interviews and I would have to train the new hire during the jazz seminar week, which was vastly approaching. I was looking forward to getting the hell out of the jazz studies office, but at the same time it was back to looking again.

After dinner, we wanted to keep partying so we went back to the bistro and met up with our friends, then to the club called the Matterhorn and danced for a bit, and had a couple drinks, then we decided to turn in for the night. We were so hot throughout the night, because we drank so much.